Both mile191 and Colleen were kind enough to give me this lemonade award. It's about making lemonade from lemons. I'm supposed to nominate 10 blogs but I don't want to limit it to that. Every blog, by every survivor is about trying to make lemonade from lemons. It's trying to find a way and reason to hold on. If some blogs seem more pessimistic than others it's because we're all in different stages of our journey. But every person out there is doing the best they can in each moment. So to everyone out there I give this award. Each of you, in your own way, makes a difference and I honor the journey you are on.
I also want to talk about fear because I read a review of a book by James S. Gordon called: UNSTUCK: YOUR GUIDE TO THE SEVEN-STAGE JOURNEY OUT OF DEPRESSION. I haven't read the book but from the foreword (which can be read on Amazon.com), it's clear that Gordon takes the position that depression is based in fear—fear that we cannot change the situation we are in or the feelings we have. His approach appears to be giving people tools to change their situation and process past experiences and emotions. The moment I read that, it felt right to me. It matches my own experience and what I've observed with others.
In the years when I was depressed, I was afraid I could never stop hating myself. I was afraid I could never be happy. I was afraid my life couldn't change for the better. When I figured out how to begin to make changes in all of these things, I stopped being depressed and started being happy.
I don't know if this specific book is any good but I love that he takes this approach! I love that he realizes depression doesn't have to be permanent, that giving people tools to change their lives can make a huge difference. Had I known, had I been able to believe, when I was so depressed, that it was possible to learn how to change my situation and how I felt about myself, it would have made all the difference in the world.
Wishing for each of you the knowledge that your lives can get better and better and so can how you feel about yourself. Sending safe and gentle ((((((hugs))))))),
April_optimist
10 comments:
I like how you posted this. Thanks and thanks for writing about depression. that is where i am right now and not doing so well. it was nice to read you. thanks !!!
Depression is gripping me at the moment. I am not sure it is fear though.
I think it is sadness.
Sadness and resignation,
http://whatwasithinking.wordpress.com/2007/10/01/too-many-lemons/
Hey, how'd you get that graphic to load? Congrats on the well-deserved awards. I like what you said about all survivor bloggers trying to make lemonade out of those trauma lemons!
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Depression for me is VERY based in fear. It is so hard to live with fear that its easy to give into it and feel depressed. Go us for fighting it!
for those wanting to see how we are in the victorian fires there is a blog up about what we went throguh and are going through
depression is terrible we can remember depression all too well
I read you again today. I hope you are okay. I love the thought you wrote about depression not being permanent, and giving tools to get better. That is my hope. Tools and better, my med is so expensive, I am hoping that I will get better, and then be able to move forward leaving some tools behind, but being better. Thanks for writing. I love your words, they are a part of my healing process.
I read you again today. I hope you are okay. I love the thought you wrote about depression not being permanent, and giving tools to get better. That is my hope. Tools and better, my med is so expensive, I am hoping that I will get better, and then be able to move forward leaving some tools behind, but being better. Thanks for writing. I love your words, they are a part of my healing process.
Thank you everyone. I've been...still. Thinking. On the cusp of change. See latest post about that.
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