What is right in your life? Stop and think about that for a moment. Anthony Robbins likes to say that what we focus on expands and becomes our reality. From my own experience, I know this to be true.
If we have been hurt, it’s easy to stay focused on that hurt. It’s easy to focus on what has gone wrong and what mistakes we’ve made. It’s easy to focus on our flaws. Odds are that’s how we were raised anyway—to be aware of our flaws (real or perceived) and our mistakes. Most of us grew up being told what was wrong with us, not what was right. If we let them, those dark moments and those memories of mistakes and things gone wrong, can swallow us whole. We can reach a point where we believe we will always be hurt and things will always go wrong and we will always fail at what we try.
Gee, how thrilled are you at the idea of getting up and facing the world tomorrow morning after thinking about that?
Instead, stop a moment and think about what has gone right in your life. Think about the things YOU have done right. Think about the moments and memories that could make you smile—if you let them. Really focus on those things. Now how ready to you feel to face the world?
If we want to be happy, if we want to overcome hurt from the past, if we want to be able to create the lives we want to have, it begins with grounding ourselves in what can and has gone right in our lives. It begins with focusing on what we can do, especially the things we do well. Even if no one else in our lives has valued what we do well, WE can begin to value it. Careers have been made out of things people loved doing that no one around them valued but strangers did.
Focus on what is right in your life. It will give you resilience. It will give you hope. And there are few things as important as hope. It is also a promise to yourself that you will have more and more things go right in your life and that’s what you’re aiming for!
What we focus on expands. We have the chance, now, this very minute, to begin a life that is focused on what can go right. We have the chance, now, this very minute, to begin to LIVE a life that is filled with such moments! Here is where and how we begin to create a life truly worth living.
Until next time, sending safe and gentle (((((((hugs))))))),