Wednesday, January 25, 2006

Unquestioned Assumptions

One of the most liberating things I ever did was decide to stop and question every limiting belief I had about myself. I was astonished at the things I discovered I could do.

I’d grown up, for example, believing that I was tone deaf because I was told I was. When I let go of that belief, I discovered I actually had a good ear for music.

I’d grown up believing no one ever wanted to be around me. I discovered that lots of people did.

I grew up believing that I had to take care of others to make up for the deficiencies in me. I discovered that I could be liked for who I am and that other people didn’t see me as deficient. (Note: I am NOT knocking helping others! I still do a great deal of that. But now I do it out of choice, not because I believe I’m worthless if I don’t.)

I grew up believing I couldn’t be feminine or attractive. Now I know that given the right dress at the right place with the right level of self-confidence, every unattached guy in the place will gravitate to me—and I’m not a young woman anymore!

I grew up believing that I couldn’t trust my instincts. I discovered that I have remarkably good instincts—perhaps much better than average.

It is the unquestioned assumptions that trip us up. It’s worth asking yourself what assumptions might be worth questioning for you.

Sending safe and gentle (((((hugs))))).


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